{ seasons of our life }

This photo was taken 4 years ago and everytime I look at it I am reminded we really need to do a new shoot. The smallest of the bunch is now the tallest of us all…
As the boys were growing up we used to do a shoot every year and to my disappointment 4 years ago came the moment that we just couldn’t afford it anymore.
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But here we are 4 years later and I am itching to set up a photoshoot with our family, you see a  lot can change during that time.  We have come from long-term unemployment (and for a while even both of us were unemployed) and barely making ends meet to starting a business that is now thriving and it supports our family in many ways, not only financially. But to be honest, coming from where we’ve been but financial freedom is what it has blessed us with the most.

No more stress to make ends meet, no more stretching the household account but the most important thing is NO more sleepless nights. Those who struggle financially know what this can do to your mind and your body.

Not a lot of people know we went through this over the course of  the last 4 years but I am sharing this to let you know… if you are going through this, I get you 💚!
Things can and will get better, just don’t be afraid to take a different path to change your future because you never know where it will lead you 👊

Because I am talking about financial freedom I am required by law to share the young living income disclosure (for your reference I am currently a proud platinum team leader 😊) https://static.youngliving.com/en-US/PDFS/incomedisclosurestatement_us.pdf

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{ Toxic-Free Lifestyle }

I was blown away when I was asked by Young Living to give a presentation at Beauty School in Vienna but also honored and freaked out at the same time. Don’t get me wrong I love sharing, teaching about what I know but in front of a group of people that do exactly the same thing as you always puts the pressure on to wow them.

My presentation was about a toxic-free lifestyle and I had 45 min. to cover it all. Our story, my story and how we made the transition and why I haven’t made the complete clean swap up until now.

toxic free lifestyleI taught it is not important to read labels, it’s more important to read the ingredient list. Most of the labels used do not even carry weight and are fabricated to make consumers believe they are taking the healthier road. even carry weight and are fabricated to make consumers believe they are taking the healthier road, it’s called greenwashing. I know, I was fooled for a long time, and the change came long before I discovered Young Living, however it was a very logical addition to our home.

When our first child was born in 2001 I tried (what I thought) were more natural alternatives to support us but my real journey started  in 2006.
Due to health issues I had to change my eating habits and with the insights I was given I found a new way of cooking. Packets and ready made sauces were chucked and we stocked up on fresh herbs,  spices and recipes from scratch. My health improved and our eating habits improved and became second nature.
But it wasn’t until 2014 that we kicked it up a notch, I discovered Young Living Essential Oils and like I said I thought we were trying natural alternatives but boy was I wrong! Over the past few years we have replaced a multitude of toxic personal care products for ourselves, our pets and our home with Young Living products, either ready to use or diy’ing to make them.

I urge you to check the beauty and personal care products in your home with this list, scary no?
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I am currently in my last clean swap fase, one I find the hardest to do but also the most fun and expensive,  my make-up bag is going organic

The think dirty app is helping me and I love following beauty bloggers that have gone before me. Organic Bunny (USA) and Organic Beauty Babe (Europe) are a great reference and I am following numerous on Instagram to learn more.  I am currently testing Lily Lolo and Creative Cosmetics and my next test order will be for at least lipstick from 100 Percent Pure and nailpolish from Acquarella.   If you can recommend any brands that are easily obtainable in Europe please let me know.

Do it scared

A big portion of my job entails public speaking; whether it be in front of a small or bigger group educating about oils, how I got into this business or how we use young living products . Depending on what I talk about, to whom and the size of the group it can be easy or a bit nerve wrecking. But I don’t let that throw me off, even the greatest speakers need to prep, calm their nerves and to be the best they can be.

This month Young Living it’s biggest event in the Netherlands to date and I was asked to share my story which of course I love doing always that hoping that our story will inspire someone to not give up no matter what.

But … that doesn’t make it easier to speak in front of 400 people or so. I prepared what i wanted to say and wrote it all out, rehearsed, oiled up and still was afraid I would forget something vital I wanted to share.

Right before it was my turn, a few of my friends spoke before me, my nerves almost got the best of me. I literally thought, after standing on stage for 30 minutes waiting until it was my turn, that I was going to faint, until I got a hold of the microphone … and my blood rushed back and it was game on for me!

Turned out that that was enough to calm my nerves and do my thing, strange how my body relaxed at that moment. Which was strange since it was quite the audience, my friends, my family (husband & mom), my team, other team members, my colleagues and Gary and Mary Young, founders of Young Living. I was so lucky to have many of my tribe there supporting me and being my cheerleaders as always.

People listened, laughed, clapped and appreciated my talk and my cheat sheet remained safely in my pocket (you can see it on the photo below) so I could not be distracted and even though I forgot some things it was ok, my presentation was imperfectly perfect.

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Again, as so many things in my life, this has shown me that even though something may be scary but it usually ends up being something great and if you can do something even though it scares you you can do anything.  My mantra:

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And until next time I will focus on methods to calm myself before I speak, finetune my presentation skills because I will do this again, scared or not, I will!

VERTALING NEDERLANDS:

Een groot deel van mijn werk is spreken in het openbaar, dit kan voor een grote groep mensen zijn of kleinere groepen. Vaak ben ik aan het uitleggen hoe je etherische oliën kunt toepassen, waarom ik ben gestart als zakelijk distributeur of welke producten wij in ons gezin gebruiken. Afhankelijk van waar ik over vertel, aan wie en hoe groot de groep is kan dit soms wat van mijn zenuwen uit balans brengen. Maar ik laat me daardoor niet weerhouden, zelfs de grootste sprekers bereiden zich voor, moeten hun zenuwen de onder controle krijgen om een goede presentatie te houden.

Deze maand organiseerde Young Living hun grootste event, tot op heden, in Nederland en ik was gevraagd om ons verhaal te delen. Dit vind ik altijd leuk om te doen, ik hoop altijd dat ons verhaal iemand inspireert om niet op te geven en door te blijven gaan om hun dromen te realiseren.

Maar … dat neemt niet weg dat het best wat is om voor ongeveer 400 mensen te moeten staan. Ik had een korte presentatie voorbereid, alles wat ik wilde vertellen had ik uitgeschreven, geoefend, ingeolied  maar ik was best onzeker of ik het wel allemaal zou onthouden en niet iets belangrijks dat ik echt wilde delen zou vergeten.

Net voordat ik aan de beurt was, een aantal van mijn vriendinnen waren voor mij aan de beurt, werden de zenuwen echt wel een dingetje. Geloof me als je 30 minuten staat te wachten op een podium tot je aan de beurt bent gaat je lichaam echt tegen je werken en ik dacht letterlijk dat ik flauw ging vallen! Tot ik de microfoon in mijn handen kreeg … en het bloed weer terugkeerde en kon ik mijn ding kon doen!

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Het bleek dat dat voldoende was om mijn zenuwen de baas te blijven en was ik weer mezelf, mooi hoe mijn lichaam zich letterlijk ontspande. En dat is best bijzonder want het was een behoorlijk publiek, mijn vrienden, mijn familie (man en moeder), mijn team, andere team members, mijn collega’s en Gary and Mary Young, de grondleggers & eigenaren van Young Living. Ik voelde me bevoorrecht om zoveel van mijn tribe daar te hebben om me te steunen en mijn cheerleaders te zijn zoals altijd.

Er werd geluisterd, gelachen, geklapt en ik voelde dat mijn verhaal werd gewaardeerd en gehoord en mijn spiekbriefje bleef in mijn broekzak (die zie je zelfs op de foto) zodat ik niet afgeleid kon worden en ook al vergat ik hier en daar iets het was ok, mijn presentatie was niet perfect maar perfect genoeg.

En wederom, zoals zoveel dingen in mijn leven, ook al is iets eng kan het zo’n geweldige ervaring zijn en als je je angsten kan overwinnen en het toch doen kun je alles. Mijn mantra

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En tot de volgende keer dat ik weer gevraagd word om te spreken zal ik mijn focussen op mijn presentatie skills, technieken leren zodat ik mijzelf kan kalmeren voor ik ga spreken. Want ik ga dit zeker weer doen, bang of niet, ik ga ervoor!

Nourishing relationships

After choosing my OLW I have been thinking a lot what  I nourish and want to share on of the things I do to nourish my relationships. With all our crazy busy lives we forget to send out sweet notes like in the old days, to show people we care, are thinking of them and how we appreciate them. Because we all know we don’t say it nearly enough 😉

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These days we choose quick, easy & cheap messages via sms, messenger, whatsapp.
No surprise delivered by the mail man/lady; a thank you note, hardly any birthday cards, christmas or new years wishes.

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I love sending out notes to my familie, friends and to my team, do this as much as I can and I encourage my team to do the same. And this year like the last we sent out New Years wishes to our team and are working on those for friends and family. After that I will focus on sending notes to all my members by the end of the month.

And I realise that a lot of people consider it a waste of money or better for the environment  to go digital but lets be honest  here, there are worse ways to waste money or to do harm to the environment…..

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But showing people you really care, by taking the time to share that with them in a note, by sending a note brings great joy to them and to you. Trust me on this and think back to the last time you received a sweet card and how that made you feel …

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Nadat ik mijn OLW had gekozen ben ik veel gaan nadenken over mijn woord nourish (voeden) en ik wilde met jullie delen wat ik doe om mijn relaties te onderhouden = voeden. Met onze drukke levens vergeten we vaak om lieve kaartjes te sturen zoals vroegah, om mensen te laten merken dat we om ze geven, we aan ze denken en dat we ze waarderen. Ik weet zeker dat iedereen het met me eens zal zijn dat we dat niet genoeg zeggen 😉

Tegenwoordig kiezen we voor snelle, makkelijke én goedkope berichtjes via sms, messenger, whatsapp. Geen verassing gebracht door de postbode; een bedankkaartje, nauwelijks verjaardagskaarten en de kerst en/of nieuwjaarskaarten worden ook steeds minder.

Ik ben dol op het sturen van kaartjes aan mijn familie, vrienden en mijn team, doe dit zoveel mogelijk en moedig mijn team ook aan om dit te doen. Dit jaar hebben we, net als vorig jaar, Nieuwjaarskaarten verstuurd aan ons team en zijn we druk doende met die voor onze vrienden en familie. Als ik daarmee klaar ben ga ik al mijn members een kaartje sturen voor het einde van de maand.

Ik realiseer me dat een hoop mensen dit zonde vinden van het geld, of dat het beter is voor het milieu om het digitaal te doen maar laten we nou wel wezen, er zijn ergere manieren om geld te verspillen of schade aan het milieu te veroorzaken ….

Mensen laten zien dat je om ze geeft, door de tijd te nemen om dat te delen in een kaartje en die aan hen te sturen geef je ze een warm gevoel. Geloof me maar en denk maar terug aan de laatste keer dat jij een lief kaartje kreeg en hoe dat voelde.

Hello 2017 meet my one little word

{ pssst Did you know I am bilingual ? Scroll down for the dutch translation of this post 😉 As of this year I will be blogging in both languages }

I have been doing One Little Word since the day that Ali Edwards shared this wonderful movement, yes it is a movement, if you are a scrapbooker you know.
But this one took me longer to resonate with than ever … Or maybe I usually start sooner, can’t remember 😉

 

My word for 2016 was Thrive and boy did I ever, for 2017 I choose NOURISH!

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Nourish the relationship my family, my team, my friends and my members with my time & love.

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Nourish my body soul & mind with good food, good reads, self-development and workouts.

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Nourish my blog, my social media accounts, my  Oiled by Nature (Young Living) business and team by sticking to my planning, hence my first post of the year.
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And allow others to nourish me ….

What is your word for 2017?

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One Little Word doe ik al vanaf de dag dat Ali Edwards deze geweldige beweging, ja geloof me het is een echte beweging en als je een scrapbooker bent dan weet je waar ik het over heb.
Maar deze duurde wat langer om te bedenken … maar misschien ben ik later begonnen dan normaal, kan ik me niet meer herinneren, hey er is al een jaar voorbij 😉 

Het woord dat ik voor 2016 koos was Voorspoed and jemig wat hebben we een voorspoed gehad, voor 2017 kies ik voeden/koesteren!

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De relatie met mijn gezin, mijn team, mijn vrienden en mijn members voeden met mijn tijd & liefde.nourish

 

Mijn lichaam en geest voeden met goed eten, mooie boeken, persoonlijke ontwikkeling en workouts.

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Mijn blog, mijn social media accounts, mijn Oiled by Nature (Young Living) bedrijf & team door beter te houden aan mijn planning, vandaar deze eerste post van het jaar.
Ik geef mezelf vandaag al een schouderklopje!nourish-2

En ik laat anderen me voeden/koesteren (waarom klinkt dat altijd raarder in het nederlands)  ….

Wat is jouw woord voor 2017?

 

Working from home

I love working from home, it does come with a few challenges, but seriously it was the best decision I ever made. Friends, family and potential team members often ask me how I do it, what it’s like and I give my Oiled by Nature team (made up of mainly moms) insights and coach them to make the most of their working at home experience.

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Since I love watching others succeed at their business I have decided to share a little bit of my life as a work from home mom through Facebook. To share the good, the bad and the downright nitty gritty how to survive as a Ladyboss with all the guilt and all the glory!

If you would like to know more about working from home, starting your own business, or sharpening your WAHM skills follow me through my Facebook page Dutch Bossbabe.

 

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My Everyday oils

So a good friend (and teammember of mine) shared what Young Living products she used inspired me to do the same because I get a lot of questions about it. I just focussed on just the oils that I use on a daily basis,  don’t freak out at the amount it’s a quick ritual, 5 min tops!

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I  will tell you a little bit about each oil and what they do for me, and by sharing this hope to show you oils are not hocus pocus just old fashioned, using what nature has to offer to keep me me happy, uplifted, balanced, calm, relaxed and sane, Day and Night!

Abundance
What YL saysAbundance was created to enhance the frequency of the harmonic magnetic energy field that surrounds us. This manifesting and powerful blend creates what is called “the law of attraction,” which refers to the positive (or negative) energy we attract to ourselves by focusing on it. Abundance therefore opens us to a wealth of possibilities. Its spicy scent is popular among both women and men – try using it as a perfume or cologne and experience your energy shifting towards prosperity and plentitude!
What I say: I love attracting positive energy and the scent is great so use this oil as my perfume!
How I use it: simply dab it behind my ears twice a day, use it in my diffuser necklace or diffuse combined with a citrus oil. 

Valor
What YL says :
 an empowering combination of essential oils that works with both the physical and spiritual aspects of the body to increase feelings of strength, courage, and self-esteem in the face of adversity. Renowned for its protective qualities, Valor® enhances an individual’s internal resources. It has also been found to help the body self-correct its balance and alignment.
What I say: it boosts me, makes me feel strong, ain’t nothing wrong with that!
Gentle Baby
What YL says :  a soft, fragrant combination of essential oils designed specifically for mothers and babies. It helps calm emotions during pregnancy and is useful for quieting troubled little ones. It is also soothing to tender skin. Many of the essential oils in this blend are used in elite cosmetics to enhance a youthful appearance.
What I say: I am a mom, the smell is amazing and soothing, need I say more?
How I use it: I apply it to my wrists every evening during my -get ready for the night – ritual*  and/or diffuse it in my bedroom. 

White Angelica
What YL says : a calming and soothing blend that encourages feelings of protection and security. It combines oils used during ancient times to enhance the body’s aura, which brings about a sense of strength and endurance. Many people use it as protection against negative energy.
What I say: Every since I’ve been using it at night my dreams have switched from  a scene from Criminal Minds to the Gilmore Girls.
How I use it: I apply 1 drop to each top op my shoulder during my -get ready for the night –  ritual*

Harmony
What YL says : an exquisite blend that promotes physical and emotional well-being by bringing harmonic balance to the energy centres of the body. The liberating, balancing, and calming essential oils in this blend open us to new possibilities while contributing to an overall feeling of well-being.
What I say: I needs lots of balance end of story!
How I use it: I apply it to my solar plexus as part of my – get ready for the day with oils – ritual

My Special – shut off my brain and go to sleep – Mix 
(Contains Vetiver, Lavender and Cedarwood)
What YL says : Vetiver has a heavy, earthy fragrance similar to patchouli with a touch of lemon. Vetiver oil is psychologically grounding, calming, and stabilising. One of the oils that is highest in sesquiterpenes, vetiver was studied by Dr. Terry Friedmann for improving children’s behavior. Vetiver may help when coping with stress and to recover from emotional trauma and shock.
Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia) has a fresh, sweet, floral, herbaceous aroma that is soothing and refreshing. Because it is the most versatile of all essential oils, no home should be without it. It is great for winding down before bedtime, yet has balancing properties that make it just as beneficial for boosting stamina and energy. Lavender is highly regarded for skin and beauty. The French scientist René Gattefossé was the first to discover these properties when he severely burned his hands in a laboratory explosion.

Cedarwood (Cedrus atlantica) has a warm, balsamic, woody aroma. It is relaxing and soothing when used for massage. Cedarwood has long been used as a beneficial ingredient in cosmetic preparations for oily skin. 
What I say: Together these three calm my brain, it helps me shut it down instead of lying there thinking of all the things I did, have to do and whatever other things pop up in there for good measure.
How I use it: I apply the mix at the bottoms of my big toes and if I’m really fast & furious I also apply it in my nek right below the hairline or at my temples during my -get ready for the night –  ritual*

Joy 
What YL says : a luxuriously exotic blend with uplifting overtones that create magnetic energy and bring joy to the heart. When worn as cologne or perfume, Joy™ exudes an alluring and irresistible fragrance that inspires romance and togetherness. When diffused, it can be refreshing and uplifting.
What I say: it makes me happy when skies are grey, and not just me, the hubs loves it too.
How I use it: I apply it to my heartchakra as part of my – get ready for the day with oils – ritual, use it in my diffuser necklace or diffuse combined with a citrus oil. 

Progessence Phyto Plus
What YL saysProgessence Phyto Plus contains a high quality wild yam extract optimally blended with vitex oil and essential oils to help women find balance the way nature intended. Specially formulated by D. Gary Young, ND, and Dan Purser, MD, Progessence Phyto Plus maximizes the effects of wild yam extract and vitex oil by utilizing an innovative suspension system.
What I say: Ding Dong the witch is dead …
How I use it: I apply it twice a day EVERY day in the morning and in the evening, 1 drops to both insides of my ankles (right under the bump) and 1 drop distributed over my inner forearms.

Clary Sage
What YL says : Clary sage (Salvia sclarea) essential oil contains natural phytonutrients. It has a mellow, warm, herbal scent that is uplifting and relaxing, making it a perfect choice for supporting a normal, healthy attitude during PMS. It is also supportive for menopausal women.
What I say: let’s just say I like my temperature to be constant …
How I use it: I apply it twice a day EVERY day in the morning and in the evening, 1 drop to both outsides of my ankles (right under the bump) 

Stress Away
What YL says : a natural solution created to combat normal stresses that creep into everyday life. Stress Away is the first product to contain the unique stress-relieving combination of lime and vanilla essential oils. Stress Away also includes copaiba and lavender to reduce mental rigidity and restore equilibrium. Featuring powerful plant constituents, such as the cedrol found in cedarwood and the eugenol that occurs naturally in vanilla, Stress Away can help induce relaxation and reduce occasional nervous tension.
What I say: I can plan a party, bake a cake, get stuck in traffic jams and this helps soothe nervous tension and it smells amazing, I just love vanilla!
How I use it: apply to my wrists and inhale 4 times for direct relief, use it in my diffuser necklace or diffuse combined with a citrus oil. 

If you have any questions about these oils that I did not answer above, please let me know 😉